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We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
- National Competition on Worries! - Competition on Worries!
(National Competition on Worries)
(It's nice to meet you.)
Let me introduce you to our today's guests.
The charming and ambitious lady, Park Ji Yoon!
- Hello, everyone. - Welcome.
The Midas touch, Bae Yoon Jung!
(The popular choreographer, Bae Yoon Jung)
- Hyomin! - Hyomin!
Hello.
The versatile idol singers, Cha Ni and Ro Woon of SF9!
(Cha Ni and Ro Woon of SF9)
(They're handsome.)
It feels awkward to call him Cha Ni.
- He's more famous as Woo Joo. - Woo Joo.
Is your name Cha Ni?
- Yes. I am Cha Ni. - Cha Ni?
Many people recognize me as Woo Joo...
- from the drama. - Exactly.
So I'm going to change my name to Woo Joo.
- Will you change your name? - I think that'd be better.
- I think that'd be better. - That's a good idea.
Woo Joo?
Cha Ni's character in the drama...
- was a golden boy. - That's right.
- I wonder what he's in real life. - He played an upright person.
In fact, in his drama,
he was nice to his parents,
he's not that nice to his group members.
However, I'm sure you can't...
complain to Cha Ni...
because he looks a little pitiful.
- That's right. - That's right.
You feel sorry for him.
Many people said...
- that I look resentful. - Really?
- In the drama, "Signal", - The one that starred Kim Hye Soo.
- I also played a man... - That's right.
who was wrongfully accused of a crime.
- That's right. - Yes.
- He looks as if he has a history. - Exactly.
So I tried to figure out how to make...
that kind of facial expression.
What is your secret? Tell us.
How do you make yourself look resentful?
You just have to relax...
every muscle in your face.
- Relax your facial muscles? - How?
- You're flexing your muscles now. - Yes.
Now, make yourself look resentful.
(He looks so resentful.)
He really looks resentful.
- He looks completely different. - He actually can do it.
He's so talented.
However, when you perform your new song,
you look completely different from your character.
I heard you make complete transformation.
Our concept for our new song is dirty sexy.
- Dirty sexy? - Yes.
Could you please show us a bit?
- Just a little. - Of course.
"Enough".
("Enough" by SF9)
They're good.
(SF9 is back with irresistible charms.)
(They make my heart flutter.)
(This is what dirty sexy is like.)
(She looks serious.)
(It feels like their new song will become a big hit.)
- SF9 is always so cool. - That was amazing.
You shouldn't work as a choreographer even on this show.
She wasn't just watching.
She was analyzing them.
- It made me feel uncomfortable. - She was analyzing.
- You were. - Since I am...
a choreographer, that's something I can't help.
But since they said it'd be dirty and sexy,
I was expecting something.
- You did a wave. - Right.
It would've been better if it was sexier.
- Sexier? - My goodness.
Which part?
- I think it was this part. - Which part?
Right.
How can it be sexier?
- Try it. - Sexier.
- Like that. - Like that?
(It's definitely sexier.)
(Oh, my.)
- Like that? - Okay.
(Well done.)
(Satisfied)
Ji Yoon was watching with a smile on her face.
I spent the recent holiday with my husband,
so it's great to see a variety.
- Is it? - Yes.
I see. Are there any other celebrities that you like?
Park Bo Gum.
Kang Daniel.
My husband was glaring at me from behind...
and told me not to be too into them.
I told him that I saw them as if they were my own sons.
But then he said, "Our son is only five years old."
Bae Yoon Jung is with us.
I can definitely sense a fierce vibe around you.
Has that ever caused any misunderstandings...
and made you feel upset?
It turns out, it wasn't a misunderstanding.
- It wasn't? - No.
I'm lost for words. Really?
You were Hyomin's choreographer back in the day.
- You were her teacher. - Yes for about 7 to 8 years.
- Right. - She looks scared.
She didn't know Yoon Jung would be coming today...
and was so shocked to see her backstage.
- She was standing like this. - Yes.
How is she?
- Yoon Jung is... - She calls her by her first name.
always fierce and scary.
- Always fierce and scary? - Back then, you mean?
- Back then? - Yes.
Now, she is very nice to me that I feel comfortable...
calling her by her first name.
I'm not crying, am I?
(Why am I getting teary-eyed?)
It'd be insane if she was.
- Right? - She's smiling but crying as well.
- And? - When we were practicing this,
- we were confused at first. - Right.
We didn't know how to exactly do it. But she kept yelling,
"Make it look more like a cat!"
- "Do it!" - "Make it look more like a cat!"
(Scratching)
- I guess... - But?
- she did teach you well. - But...
We strived so much in order for us to look...
more like cats. When we performed it,
- People loved it. - it became a hit.
I realized that we should never doubt her and just listen.
Today, we have received several worries once again.
I wonder what kinds of worries they are.
Please show us the keywords.
- "Please Stop Him." - "Please Stop Him."
- "My Wish", "My Great Sister". - "My Great Sister".
"Please Stop Him."
Hello, I am a 15-year-old girl who will be...
in eighth grade this year.
Everyone talks about how scary puberty is.
But I'm more scared about going home.
She came back from school. "I'm home."
"Is dinner dumpling soup? It looks delicious."
Her dad says,
"Gosh, why did you put in so many dumplings?"
"This isn't a lot."
"Why are you getting mad?"
"When did I?"
(It's a fiery conversation.)
This one's a hard one.
I feel like I'm at war every single day...
thanks to my parents fighting all the time.
This is her dad. "Let's go out for dinner tonight."
"How does pizza sound?"
"I'd love that. I want bulgogi pizza."
"Let's just have the basic one."
"Come on. Our daughter wants bulgogi pizza."
"Why are you getting mad over nothing?"
"Forget it! We're not eating!"
Is this something to fight over?
They're at it again.
We ended up not having pizza that night.
Whom I'm worried about the most is...
my five-year-old brother who has to watch this every day.
- She has a younger brother. - Every time they fight, he cries.
(Wailing)
"Stop fighting. He can hear you."
- "He's too young to understand!" - Oh, my.
"Go into your room!"
Could you please stop my parents from fighting?
- That's it. - Okay.
- I'm sure you've taught many kids. - Yes.
What have you noticed while training them?
Those who are always cheerful, kindhearted, and polite...
tend to have parents...
- who are exactly the same. - Right.
- Both of the parents? - Yes, that's right.
But those who are always depressed or frowning...
- tend to have... - The same kind of parents?
- parents who are similar. - Children are our mirrors.
When I was young, I wasn't very cheerful.
And I was always timidly feeling people out.
It was because my dad was very scary.
- Right. - And I remember...
my parents fighting often when I was young.
I see. So this girl has sent us this letter regarding her parents.
Please come on out.
(Who is this girl who's worried about her parents fighting?)
(Park Hyo Won)
Grab their hands.
(She grabs onto their hands.)
Lucky you.
- Are you jealous? - Yes.
Then get in line after we finish shooting.
(Wait in a queue.)
I'll be straightforward.
Why do your parents fight every single day?
Out of 365 days,
they fight over 360 days.
Gosh. They fight every single day.
My dad nags a lot,
and my mom gets vexed easily.
What a great harmony. A nagger and a vexed woman.
The fights are just waiting to happen.
When my dad criticizes the side dishes that she made,
my mom would get mad and tell him to stop nagging.
We heard about how they fought over ordering pizza.
I aced a test, so our family decided to eat out.
But we couldn't have pizza because of their fight...
and ended up ordering in chicken.
- You had chicken? - Goodness.
Hold on. You got 100 percent on your test?
- Yes. - Really?
- Wow. - She's amazing.
She's really smart.
She aced it.
So they were going to buy pizza because of you.
- Yes. - They should've just done it.
Since they tend to fight often while eating,
I usually eat in a hurry and go into my room.
Because of them, I started spending more time in my room.
So that's how you studied so well and aced the test.
I guess so.
Is that how they make her study?
Are they fighting on purpose?
"She went into her room!"
(Were they scheming?)
(They're impressed by her.)
But I'm really worried...
because they fight in front of...
my five-year-old brother.
- I'm sure it is. - Of course.
I also have a younger brother, and our parents used to fight a lot.
My brother and I are over six years apart.
What does your brother do when they fight?
Usually, he cries,
so I bring him...
- into my room. - My goodness.
What did you do?
It was the opposite. My brother took me inside the room.
I'm sure they both have their reasons for fighting.
We should hear them out.
Let's speak with the mother first. Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
(She gets angry because of her husband nagging.)
Let me be straightforward. Why do you guys fight so much?
It's mostly because of his nagging.
Every evening, we have dinner together.
He talks about how the rice is overcooked, not cooked enough,
how the soup is bland, and criticizes my taste.
He also nags about how I squeezed the toothpaste from the middle.
He nags me about all these things every day.
- Goodness. - Sure, he can do that at home.
But why do you fight on your trip?
We decided to spend the night at a villa.
Before reserving, I showed him photos of the place and asked him.
He said it was nice, so I reserved it.
Sometimes, the accommodation doesn't look exactly like the photos.
- Right. - He kept complaining about...
how small the room was and how the wi-fi wasn't working.
- He completely ruined the mood. - I bet.
From what the daughter said,
you also tend to nag about trivial matters.
- That you nag a lot. - Right.
My husband smokes.
- Okay. - Since we have kids at home,
I tell him to use mouthwash before coming home.
But he hasn't been doing that for years.
He always says that he'll do things,
but they're never reflected through his actions.
Do you get irritated since those things pile up?
- Yes. - Is the husband sitting...
- next to her? - Yes.
- He kept sighing when she spoke. - He has some things to say.
I do think he has a lot to say.
I'd like to hear his point of view on that pizza case.
Both my wife and daughter aren't very decisive.
When my wife's out shopping for clothes,
she cannot leave the shopping mall since she can't choose.
My daughter can't decide on a dish...
and spends so much time reading the menu.
I decide for them, and that has become a habit.
- But she chose bulgogi pizza. - Right.
About that,
we've been having bulgogi pizza for a while,
so I just insisted that we have something else.
- But she aced the test. - She got 100 percent.
You could've yielded that one time.
- You should be firm with him. - I know, but I insisted.
- Can I do that? - Yes.
- Come on. - Of course.
Just ask him hard questions.
Your reputation will be tainted, but that's about it.
- I see. - Yes.
(She has trouble holding back.)
They both claim that the fights happen...
because of your nagging.
Do you also think you nag too much?
The only time we really get to talk is while having dinner.
I don't think of it as nagging.
That's what you think?
I'm not trying to nag. I'm just striking a conversation.
But my wife gets mad whenever I say something.
Pretend that I'm your wife.
What do you say while eating?
- Let's say the meat is a bit burnt. - "This tastes a bit bland."
"Why did you burn the meat so much?"
- That's it? - "It's really burnt."
- Do you really talk that nicely? - Then...
It doesn't seem that bad, ma'am.
If he talked that nicely, I'd just reply back.
I enjoy eating meat that is slightly burnt.
- But he doesn't allow that. - They're completely different.
- They're polar opposites. - I know.
"You brunt it again. It's bland. It's salty."
If he just says that once, I would let it pass.
I wouldn't get angry or irritated.
However, he says the same thing 4 or 5 times...
throughout the meal.
- He continues to say it's bland. - Yes.
I don't do it all the time. Then it would be nagging.
- She says you do it all the time. - She says you do it all the time.
I don't do it all the time.
He does it every day.
See? She says you do it every day.
I don't do it every day.
(I want them to make peace.)
Since you are a married couple, it's natural to have fights.
The biggest problem is that you fight...
in front of your children.
I know it's bad for children's education,
so I asked him dozens of times...
to complain after dinner.
To this day, he doesn't do that.
He tends to lose his temper when things get heated up.
He throws an alarm clock or remote control at me...
- in front of children. - Does he throw them?
(Does he do that in front of children?)
- He should do that. - That's...
That's really bad.
Sir, is that true?
(Sighing)
Are you reflecting upon yourself?
No.
(I knew it.)
(Never mind.)
Tae Gyun.
- He... - He wasn't saying anything.
It looked like he was reflecting upon himself.
- He is angry. - He is the type who believes...
"A tooth for a tooth".
- Don't aggravate him. - Okay.
I did it when I lost my temper.
I admit I was in the wrong. However,
I don't speak in an irritable manner.
My wife gets irritated...
at everything I say.
Have you seen your dad throw things?
Yes, I have seen it about two times.
I have seen it about two times.
How did you feel?
It put me in a bad mood.
I couldn't understand why he was acting that way.
I want my parents to make peace,
but my dad makes the matter worse by throwing things.
(It must be hard.)
One of them should make an effort.
"The meat is burnt!"
Then Hyo Won's mom should go, "Yes, I am going to eat it,"
and keep eating.
If one of you use softer words,
you will be able to carry a conversation.
Does your mom get irritated?
My brother is young, but she gets irritated at him.
- He is 5 years old. - He is 5 years old.
He was playing with a musical toy.
She said she is sick and tired of the music...
and threw it this close to my brother, Hyun Soo.
(The five-year-old child must have been startled.)
I am worried what she throws will hit Hyun Soo someday.
- Your mom is the same. - She gets irritable.
(Children have to deal with their mom's irritation.)
Hyo Won's five-year-old brother is here.
- Is he here? - Let's talk to him.
He doesn't seem like a five-year-old.
He is so cute.
(Hello.)
He is so cute.
- My goodness, hello. - Where do you want to sit?
Go to your sister.
(Who are these people?)
- Go to your sister. - Where do you want to sit?
(It's my sister!)
(Hyun Soo, I'm here.)
- Go to your sister. - Where do you want to sit?
(Smiling)
(He falls into her arms.)
Did you see that?
His face lit up.
(I was scared.)
- She is like his mom. - Is his name Hyun Seok?
She is like his mom.
- Is his name Hyun Seok? - Please introduce your brother.
- Hyun Soo, say hello. - Hyun Soo.
Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
- Where are your mom and dad? - Mom.
Your mom and dad are there.
(Hello, my son.)
I am curious about something.
The big age difference between the two children tells me...
you didn't plan to have Hyun Soo.
Was it a happy day for the two of you?
I don't know.
- Was it... - Sir.
You are the husband, so you should tell us.
Exactly what happened that day?
That day? I don't know. I don't know what I was thinking.
- It was a happy day. - He looks really nice...
- when he smiles. - I know.
You should smile more.
(You look really nice when you smile.)
(Smile, Dad.)
Do you want your mom and dad to get along?
Do you want them to fight?
"I can't hear you."
He loves her sister.
- There are too many people. - He is flustered.
- All right. - Hyun Soo.
- Hyun Soo. - Hyun Soo.
Say hello to a pretty woman.
He is scared.
- He is scared. She isn't scary. - Let's go.
Hyun Soo.
Maybe you should have stayed at home. My gosh.
(Bye, Hyun Soo.)
- It could be postpartum depression. - Postpartum depression.
Perhaps her physical condition worsened after childbirth.
That's what worries me.
Since I gave birth after 10 years,
I don't have enough strength. It's taxing.
I had to go back to work...
in less than 100 days.
I work as a telemarketer.
(She works as a telemarketer.)
It's emotionally taxing.
I work from 9am to 6pm.
I can't go home unless I meet my daily quota.
I have to eat lunch very quickly and get back to work.
After work, I go to the daycare center by 7:30pm,
pick up Hyun Soo, and take the subway home.
- Then you make dinner. - Then I make dinner,
do the laundry, and wash the dishes.
After I give Hyun Soo a bath, it's 12am.
Call centers have a test once a month.
- It's an evaluation. - What kind of a test is it?
It's a test on knowledge and data processing.
To prepare for the test, I put Hyun Soo to bed...
- and begin studying after 12am. - My goodness.
- Oh, gosh. - Then I have to stay up all night.
I wish my husband would help me, but he doesn't help me at all.
- He takes it for granted. - Why don't you ask him for help?
Even when I ask, it doesn't make a long-term difference.
He says he doesn't want to help since I am annoying.
One time, I left Hyun Soo at home since he agreed to watch him.
When I asked him if he fed Hyun Soo after work,
he said, "Why would I have done that when I haven't eaten?"
- He didn't feed the child. - That means...
the child starved all day until I came home.
Why didn't you take care of your child?
I woke up late...
- What? - and watched dramas.
You didn't feed your son because of that?
I watched dramas and played games.
Ever since my wife became irritable,
our relationship worsened.
Because of that,
I don't feel like...
doing anything including looking after a child.
(What did the children do?)
When you have that kind of a schedule,
you get angry even when you don't do anything.
- Of course. You become irritable. - Anger builds up inside you.
Since I can't have my free time or relieve my stress,
I have a lot of pent-up anger.
(She has emotional outbursts.)
(Mom, don't cry.)
People who work at call centers...
get stressed out because of what people say.
It's emotional labor.
She has to listen to people all day.
Her husband is stressing her out...
- in the worst way. - That's right.
He may not think much of it, but...
After people complain to her, her husband complains to her.
When you work as a telemarketer,
there are many causes for stress, right?
Let's say I answered questions customers asked.
If the fare is expensive and the customer isn't satisfied,
"You are the worst."
"You work that kind of a job because you are dumb."
"You are a lowlife."
They would mention a criminal who is on the news.
"You are worse than so-and-so."
Some people say that. I can deal with those.
But there are people...
who yell for 20 minutes from the beginning to the end.
After those calls,
my head throbs so much that I need to take medicine.
My head hurts so much.
Be honest with us.
"Because of stress I received from work,"
"I get unnecessarily irritated..."
"with my husband and children."
You have had that thought, right?
Yes, I have.
There is no way to relieve my stress.
When I try to tell my husband about what was upsetting,
he goes, "Don't talk about work."
(That's too much.)
(What does he do as her husband?)
I have no one to talk to.
Talking to the wall would be preferable.
Since she talks irritably, I don't want to hear it.
I want her to talk nicely.
Have you tried...
talking to your in-laws?
I am the first child, so I don't complain to my parents...
because I don't want them to worry.
However, my husband bottles everything up...
and mentions it when we are eating with his parents.
"You should watch and learn."
(It's the worst kind of nagging.)
- "Why can't you do like this?" - No one would want to hear that.
He says that in front of his parents.
My goodness.
(It breaks my heart.)
(For goodness' sake.)
Why do you do that?
(Why do you do that in front of your mother?)
It was a shock tactic.
(They are flustered.)
What are you saying?
- How is that a shock tactic? - We got married 16 years ago.
We got married 16 years ago,
but her cooking skills haven't improved.
I wanted her to learn,
so I used a shock tactic.
Those shock tactics built up...
- and made her angry. - Anyone would be...
- irritated. - So she can't say nice words.
- As for cooking, - Seriously.
does everything she cooks taste bad?
You should adjust to people you live with.
The dishes my wife cooks...
aren't seasoned at all.
Since he says that a lot,
the staffs...
- Will we do the fact-checking? - Yes.
- We will do the fact-checking. - Will we do the fact-checking?
Yes. We asked her to bring some dishes...
she made at home.
- They set up a table. - They might not taste good.
We are very worried.
- We never know. - We might taste the dishes...
- She is not a housewife. - and come to understand...
Hyo Won's dad a bit.
(You will know once you taste the dishes.)
- Dried pollack soup. - It's a home-cooked meal.
- Egg roll. - It's real.
- Spinach salad. - Come.
- Try the dried pollack soup. - Let's try the soup.
- Okay. - Take some in the bowl.
Dried pollack soup.
(Is her husband right?)
Try this.
It tastes okay. It tastes like dried pollack soup.
He said it tasted bland.
It's seasoned perfectly.
- Yoon Jung. - Try it.
- It's seasoned perfectly. - My goodness.
- It's seasoned just right. - Sir.
- You think it's bland? - It's a bit salty.
- It's salty. - It's more on the salty side.
It's more on the salty side. It's not bland at all.
(Everyone else is busy discussing the taste.)
(Yeong Ja puts a piece of egg roll on some rice.)
(She puts it in her mouth carefully.)
The tofu...
(Yeong Ja seems to like the food.)
I like it.
- Yeong Ja. - I like the burdock roots.
Yes?
We're supposed to discuss the taste. Stop eating.
(It tastes so good.)
It's a hassle to make a spinach salad.
(How does the spinach salad taste?)
It tastes good.
- It tastes good, right? - The spinach salad tastes great.
It's better than my wife's.
I think it's a bit too bland for me.
- "Bland"? - Yes.
- You must like salty food. - You must like salty food.
- You must like very salty food. - You must like very salty food.
The spinach salad is on the salty side too.
And he thinks it's bland.
I think I understand now.
He must like very salty food.
Speaking from a wife's perspective,
she put carrots in the stir-fried fish cakes.
Julienned carrots.
- It must have been a lot of work. - That's right.
I have cooked on TV shows...
and lived alone for a long time in the past.
- Julienning carrots... - Julienning carrots...
takes so much time.
- All right. - She is eating everything.
- Take the table away! - Take it away!
Take it away. The table is taken away.
It tasted very good.
(Sir, do you see this?)
(This food is nothing to complain about.)
(This is not what I thought.)
Are you just unhappy with your wife in general...
or are you really unhappy about her food only?
I want her...
to speak a bit more softly.
She speaks in such an aggressive way.
I can't really handle it.
But if you stop nagging her so much...
and start talking nicely,
I'm sure she'll change.
That'd be better. Why don't you stop nagging her first?
If I'm to stop nagging her, I'd have to stop talking to her altogether.
- Why do you think... - You have nothing else to say?
- you have to nag? - That might be better.
Why can't you say, "What did you do today? How was your day?"
"This tastes bland. This is burned." If that's all you ever tell her,
wouldn't that be such a sad life?
She complains to me first.
Do you sometimes feel...
how hard it is...
- for your mom? - I was sleeping at night,
and Mom was listening to some music in the living room.
"This is too hard. Am I the only one living this way?"
"I want to be happy." She cried while saying that to herself.
So I went to her and comforted her.
(It must be so hard.)
Two years ago, I felt a sudden pain in my belly.
It turned out that I had an ectopic pregnancy.
After the surgery, I wasn't allowed to even drink water...
- before I passed gas. - Right.
I was bedridden.
And my husband said he wanted to go to an internet cafe and play games.
(How could he do that?)
While I was hospitalized for a week,
he was practically staying at an internet cafe the whole time.
I was just alone in the hospital.
My goodness.
(It hurts to be left alone.)
(It hurts their children as well.)
Why do you do that?
- Ro Woon, ask him. - Ask him.
Why do you do that?
Back then,
I was a bit obsessed with games.
It's about time you became obsessed with your wife.
What are you most worried about?
My parents have seriously talked about divorce...
six times already.
I want my family to stay together.
I'm worried it won't be possible.
(I'm worried my parents will get divorced.)
Also, as my little brother has been seeing all this,
when Mom and Dad fight, he hugs Mom...
and tries to cheer her up.
- He catches things so fast. - Right.
I'm afraid it'll affect his personality...
- later. - It's possible.
Here are something experts say.
When parents fight,
it frightens the kid...
as much as war does.
That's how scary it is for the kid.
You might think he doesn't feel anything because he doesn't say it,
but he must be feeling tremendous fear.
(Please change for your children's sake.)
(Kids feel things too.)
Do you seriously consider getting a divorce?
My wife complains too much.
When we fight, I end up talking about divorce.
- But you didn't mean it? - I didn't.
Put yourself in her shoes. You come home from work.
- You work, right? - Yes.
- You're tired, right? - Yes.
But you have to take care of the kids and cook too.
How would that feel?
- It'd be tough. - And your wife comes home...
and complains about the food. Wouldn't that make you angry?
It would.
Do you really not see...
where it all started?
If you both work,
you should both take care of the kids.
Do you know how your wife feels?
She thinks it's unfair.
"Why only me?"
Shouldn't you share the work?
Wouldn't it make her stop being aggressive?
Because it'd be fair then.
- It's all relative. - By the way,
why are you crying the whole time?
I finally told him the things...
I'd been holding back.
And we all sympathize with you.
(She wanted her husband to sympathize with her.)
(Don't make your daughter worry anymore.)
(Try to be more considerate of each other.)
Imagine you'll live this way for many more decades.
Isn't that a nightmare?
You should be wiser and decide to change.
- You should find a way. - You should try to find a way.
How do you want your husband to change?
Say just one thing.
I want him to...
Look him in the eye.
(Awkward)
(Stiff)
Sir, smile.
She is your children's mother and your wife.
That's right.
When he nags me about something, I want him to say it just once.
That's all I want.
That's not enough.
Just don't start.
(Will you guys make up?)
I think I've been too cold.
I'll try not to nag you.
Let's try to have better conversations from now on.
- Your food tastes better... - You both work.
than anything else in the world.
I'll appreciate it more from now on.
I'm sorry, and I love you.
(Surprised)
(They're still awkward.)
You said, "I'll appreciate it more from now on."
It means you want her to continue to cook for you.
(He wants her to continue to cook for him.)
I know how to solve their problem.
Once their kid starts getting in trouble, they'll make up.
Do you get perfect scores these days too?
I got an average score of 98 recently.
- 98? - That's incredible.
You... Who is your coordinator?
- What? - Who is your coordinator?
[VIU Ver] E401 Hello Counselor "Realize Your Mistake" -♥ Ruo Xi ♥-
Do you think it's a worry or not?
Even just to maintain your happiness,
- give compliments. You know what? - Exactly.
It'd make your wife want to be better.
I don't think it's a worry.
If they can meet halfway,
they'll become happier.
I think it's a worry.
You're trying so hard to stay calm.
Looking at Dong Yeob,
I wondered how his ears could become so red,
but my ears have been red the whole time.
- You're angry. - I noticed we're the same.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
Let's see how many people pressed the button.
The last digit... "Please Stop Him".
It's over 100.
Out of 200,
how many?
- 156. - 156.
(156 votes)
The title is, "My Wish".
Someone needs to play the husband.
Let me see. These guys would be too realistic.
Ask Cha Ni.
- You want to try something new? - Sure.
- Let me try. - Welcome.
Okay.
- All right. - I'm only 20.
You're only 20?
Hello, I'm completely exhausted both physically and mentally.
I'm a woman in my 40s.
I work at a tonkatsu restaurant.
And my boss is like...
"Hurry up! The customers are waiting."
My mean boss drives me crazy.
And I have to work...
all year around.
A tonkatsu restaurant?
Why can't I quit?
You don't understand.
I'd love to, but my boss is...
my husband.
I work for my husband.
Every time I step out for a moment...
"Come back right now!"
- They must be busy. - It doesn't end there.
"Honey."
"My whole body aches."
"Can I stay home today?"
"What are you talking about? Come right now!"
(It's impossible to talk to him.)
Even when I get cold sores and my whole body aches,
I have to work.
When I can't take it anymore, I explode.
"I can't live like this."
"I can't work like this."
"What? For goodness' sake!"
The sound of something breaking.
(The sound of something breaking)
"Are you going to work or not?"
My wish isn't anything big.
I just want to rest...
one day in a week.
Please set me free.
That's the worry.
(Please set me free.)
Ji Yoon, what do you think?
If the business is going well,
I would open the restaurant every day...
since I am greedy and ambitious.
They say family business is the best.
- That way you can have all? - The money will stay inside...
- She is ambitious. - and pile up.
Ro Woon, what do you think?
When I was a trainee, I didn't get a single day off.
- Even during the holidays, - How was it?
I went and practiced. But...
for the efficiency of work,
- enough rest is needed. - That's right. You need to rest.
Let's invite her to the stage...
and find out what the reason could be.
Welcome her with a round of applause.
(Who can't rest a single day because of her boss and husband?)
(She has a sense of rhythm.)
(Ha Ae Jung)
You got a day off thanks for the shoot.
- Yes. - You are right.
Thank you so much.
Did you send a worry to rest?
Yes.
(It was her master plan.)
(I will catch 2 birds with 1 stone.)
Does your husband work without a single day off?
Yes. My husband is a workaholic.
He is a slave to work.
- A slave to work. - Yes.
He doesn't take a single day off.
I suggested that...
we should take one day off per week,
but he didn't keep his promise.
For three years,
I haven't taken a day off.
- For three years? - Yes.
From home,
the restaurant takes about 40 minutes by car.
About 2 or 3 times a week,
we sleep on the sofa inside the restaurant...
to save time for the commute.
- At the tonkatsu restaurant? - Yes.
You do that to save time for the commute.
Recently, my daughter got married.
He said he can't close the restaurant that day.
(Oh, my goodness.)
- It was your daughter's wedding. - I know.
I persuaded him...
and he closed the restaurant for a day. That day,
a big typhoon came.
- On the day of the wedding? - Yes.
- My husband said, - What did he say?
"Thank goodness the typhoon came."
"Had the weather been nice, we would have gotten customers."
(Had the weather been nice, we would have taken a loss.)
It drove me crazy.
(Okay, I must remain calm.)
On February first, my daughter gave birth.
- What? - That's right.
She got married recently. How did she give birth already?
- She got married recently. - She got married recently.
She got pregnant before the wedding.
I shouldn't say that, but...
(My daughter will scold me.)
A lot of people get pregnant before the wedding these days.
However, we couldn't visit her...
since we were working.
My granddaughter was in an infant incubator.
I talked to my husband and went to the hospital...
for 30 minutes.
- Not 3 days, but 30 minutes. - Yes.
I couldn't see my granddaughter since there is a visiting time.
- That's right. - I wanted to be with my daughter.
I was upset that I couldn't do it.
Your husband asked you to come and work?
- Yes. - My gosh.
There are restaurants...
that are open 365 days a year.
Perhaps your husband has no choice...
but to go without a day off.
No.
We have been married for 28 years.
Ever since we were newlyweds,
my husband volunteered to work overtime.
- What? - That was before the restaurant.
- He worked for a company. - He must like to do everything.
He volunteered to work overtime.
He worked until 2 or 3am on weekdays...
and worked on weekends.
For 2 or 3 months, he didn't come home.
He ate and slept at a room inside the company.
- He is a true workaholic. - Yes.
Then my husband quit work.
We ran a chicken restaurant for eight years.
You ran a chicken restaurant for eight years.
I didn't get a single day off in eight years.
(She didn't get a single day off in 8 years.)
(Both my body and mind are suffering.)
Do you have to help out at the restaurant?
There is a reason.
We have tried hiring employees,
but they would fight with my husband.
They quit shortly afterward.
That's why I can't help but work at the restaurant.
I simply asked for a day off per week.
- A day off. - Yes.
But it led to a big fight.
- My husband got so angry... - A big fight.
that he threw the table, cabinet,
and fan.
He broke everything in the house...
and pushed me hard.
(That sounds dangerous.)
- You only asked for a day off. - Yes.
He is a tyrant.
When something doesn't go his way, he loses his temper.
Is he like that? We will meet your husband soon.
Since you warned us about his personality,
we will be careful.
If someone throws an object at me, I throw it right back.
Please warn your husband.
Honey, don't do that to Yeong Ja.
(Don't do that to Yeong Ja.)
Tell him that if they really have a fight, he will lose.
(We are warning you.)
I am warning you, Sir.
I will throw an object right back,
so don't lose your temper. Let's talk to him.
Hello.
- Hello. - All right.
Are you okay with taking a day off today?
My family was insistent.
We were going to take a day off on Lunar New Year,
but we worked instead. That's why we are here today.
- You worked on Lunar New Year. - Where is your mind at?
It's at the restaurant.
(I can't believe him.)
Do you know the work is physically taxing on your wife?
I understand wholeheartedly. I understand.
It's physically taxing on me, too.
However, I want us to prepare for our latter days.
I am grateful for her.
Do you work hard to prepare for your latter days?
- Yes. - What age would that be?
I haven't thought about the exact age.
- I am focusing on the present. - He won't be able to rest.
Will he wait until he is in his 90s?
When I was 14 years old, I became my uncle's foster son...
in order to study in Seoul.
Since I wasn't his real son, I got scolded for eating too much.
- They picked on you. - They picked on me.
In December, I ran away from home...
with a backpack on my back.
Since I had nowhere to go despite a hungry stomach,
I went to work at a Chinese restaurant.
I worked at a Chinese restaurant and construction sites.
I worked as a scrubber and shoeshiner.
- You've done various work. - I have done all kinds of work.
That's why I got accustomed to this lifestyle.
- You got accustomed. - It's understandable.
- When your daughter gave birth, - That's right.
you should have stayed by her side.
It's not a grandchild from my son, but my daughter.
(It's not a grandchild from my son, but my daughter.)
(What?)
(How could he say that?)
I knew she would come home...
with her baby once.
That's why I thought it would be better to work.
Sir, you should watch your words.
Granddaughters...
might not go to your restaurant.
I wasn't going to go to the hospital anyway,
- because... - Then why did you say those words?
(It's definitely a worry.)
I understand your passion for work...
and your life story,
but the way you threw objects...
just because your wife wanted to rest is violence.
I understand where my wife is coming from,
but...
(If you understand, what's the problem?)
(What's the problem?)
- But she could have used... - He says he understands.
a nicer tone.
She talked irritably.
Did you want her to go, "Honey, let's take a day off"?
Had she done that, would you have agreed?
- No. - Then what's the point?
(For goodness' sake.)
My goodness.
(She laughs because she is incredulous.)
If you work without a day off,
does it help the family greatly?
Taking a day off per week...
doesn't make a big difference to the income.
Working longer hours doesn't bring in more money.
- No, it doesn't. - It's the same either way.
We simply make enough to maintain the restaurant...
and pay for family needs.
If all that work doesn't bring in a lot of money,
it's a big problem.
There must be a problem with the structure.
Shouldn't you change the way you run the business?
Working every day obviously isn't doing much.
Since I worked that way for over 30 years,
it became a habit. My parents taught me that way.
"You must be frugal and diligent at all times."
"You must live to your fullest and wake up early."
I heard those words many times.
I learned the same thing in the society.
You live that way because it became a habit,
- but it's not the case with wife. - That's right.
It must be taxing for her.
You should do it by yourself.
I can't work by myself.
I have to work with her.
(Frustrated)
(He is always like that.)
His son quit his job...
to work at the tonkatsu restaurant.
What does your son say? Doesn't he complain?
When my husband gets angry during work,
he yells at my son.
"You jerk!" He gets angry.
- He's comfortable with him. - He does in front of customers.
That's right. He doesn't care if there are customers or not.
One time, my son made a mistake with a delivery.
He forgot to bring chopsticks and had to travel 30km back.
My husband got so angry...
that he grabbed my son by his collar.
- My goodness. - I know.
(That's excessive.)
- Your son is next to him. - That's right.
I thought something was strange...
because he continues to lean away from his father.
- He wants to keep a distance. - I know.
(A suspicious space)
(Glancing over)
(He is crouching.)
I think it shows us something.
Do you sit that way out of habit?
I am nervous.
Does your father make you nervous?
Yes.
Why can't you look at your father in the eye?
- His father makes him nervous. - He is scared of his father.
(She is frustrated.)
Do you work every day?
Ever since I quit my job,
I work until 5pm on weekdays.
On weekends, I go in the afternoon and stay until 9pm.
That means you haven't taken a day off either.
No, I haven't.
Do you get paid?
I get paid 20 dollars a day.
- 20 dollars a day? - Yes.
- How many hours do you work a day? - All day long.
I work at least 10 hours a day.
- He works for 10 hours a day. - That's...
That's less than the minimum wage.
- Is he paid 60 dollars a month? - Sir, let us hire your son...
- since he's cheap labor. - The minimum wage...
- However, I'm paid... - That's exploitation of labor.
- only 200 dollars a month. - What?
(What did you say?)
- But... - It's more like an allowance.
(He should be paid 600 dollars a month. Why is he paid so little?)
The reason he gets paid only that much is...
that whenever he receives money from my husband,
my husband documents it on his laptop computer.
- The money your son borrowed? - Yes.
To pay his mobile phone bill and things like that.
And then he should repay him the money with interest.
What's the interest rate?
If he borrows 10 dollars, he repays up to 50 dollars.
(He lends 10 dollars and collects 50 dollars.)
If he borrows 10 dollars, he repays up to 50 dollars.
(He charges 500 percent interest rate like a loan shark.)
- Sir. - Is he a loan shark?
- Why? - I will report you...
to the Financial Supervisory Service.
Because he deducts all the money from our son's pay,
our son said that he gets paid only that much per month.
Since my husband is a thrifty person,
he tries to check how much money our children spend.
But he charges too much interest, right?
- I wouldn't call that thrifty. - Right.
- He lends 10 dollars... - That's exploitation.
(I really think it's too harsh.)
If I worked as he does...
at my father's store,
I don't think I would last even a week.
- He doesn't even get paid fairly. - That's right.
He only thinks about getting the money back with interest.
I think it's unfair.
- That's right. - In fact,
there are some store owners...
whose children work at their stores without getting paid.
- They all get paid, sir. - They're all paid.
The owner of the store next to mine doesn't pay his child.
Gosh. Why is there a store like that right next to his store?
(It's right next to his store.)
(He laughs too as he's speechless.)
You may be in a situation where you need to borrow money...
from your son. If your son charges you interest...
just like you do now, how would you feel?
In order to prevent things like that,
I work very hard each day.
(There's no way to convince him.)
(You know how I feel, right?)
Let's get back to where we were.
Ma'am, if your husband never took a day off,
I'm sure you never went on a trip with your family.
When our children were little, we went to an exhibition in Busan...
for only half a day during the holiday season.
- That was the only time. - Only once?
- Only once. - In your entire life until now?
- I mean, your marriage. - Yes, ever since we got married.
How long have you been married?
We've been married for 28 years.
(For the past 28 years,)
(they went on a family outing only one time...)
(for half a day.)
Ma'am, do you have a family photo album?
- Any photos of your family? - No.
That's so sad.
Did you attend your children's school events?
As you can assume, we missed a lot of them.
We just went to see them briefly and came back to work.
When we ran a chicken restaurant,
I couldn't look after my children properly.
So my daughter developed depression.
Her condition got worse,
and she couldn't walk for six months.
(She couldn't walk for 6 months due to depression.)
I took her to a hospital, but the doctor couldn't find the cause.
I was told that it was a stress-related disorder.
When I heard that,
it broke my heart, and I was upset.
- When were you the most upset? - Also, I...
got into a four-car rear-end collision last year.
The left side of my body including my eye, face,
- shoulder, and back was swollen. - I see.
When I work with my husband at the restaurant,
I make the sauce and side dishes.
But since I couldn't work,
he had to buy all that.
When he came to the hospital, he said,
"I know that it wasn't your fault that you got into the accident,"
"but it costs me too much."
(It's such a scary thing to say to a patient.)
That's what he said.
I was very disappointed.
I understand that he was worried about his business.
But I felt like crying when he said it.
(I really felt like crying.)
I was hospitalized for two weeks after the accident.
So I didn't work at the restaurant.
I was so happy for those two weeks.
You were in pain but happy?
- Ma'am, are you... - I can understand her.
- missing the days in the hospital? - My goodness.
That's how much she needs a break.
She must be exhausted. Did you really say...
- that you suffered great loss? - Yes, I did.
If I hire someone, I have to pay that person.
Unless you broke your bones, you can just take medications...
and get some rest for a few days.
There's a small room in my restaurant.
She could have gotten some rest in there.
Also, if she stayed in the hospital for a long time,
she might develop other diseases.
So I thought she didn't have to be hospitalized.
- He is a terrible person. - So you...
- Calm down. - I mean, this is...
Sir, I think you were too harsh.
(My feelings were hurt more than my body was.)
You're here because you have to work without a break.
If he lets you take some days off,
would that solve your problem?
That won't resolve the fundamental problem.
They say that when one's home is happy, all goes well.
- That's right. - I want my family to be happy.
But my husband believes...
that we all must follow his principles.
He always tells our children to work hard no matter what...
and never take a leave when they work at a company.
When my son said he couldn't go to work because he was unwell,
he said, "No. If you're going to die, die at your workplace."
(No. If you're going to die, die at your workplace.)
- That would burden his colleagues. - "Die at your workplace."
(That would burden his colleagues.)
Why did you tell him to die at his workplace?
If he dies at his workplace, that means he died while working.
- It'd be an industrial accident. - Oh, gosh.
(If he dies while working, it would be an industrial accident.)
- This is driving me crazy. - Because of compensation?
If he dies at home,
we would have to pay medical bills,
and it will affect my business.
Then a jobless person can't even die if he wants to die?
I would think that's his fate.
(That's his fate.)
One of my junior entertainers said,
"Dong Yeob, I'm going to die while performing on stage."
So I said, "What's your problem? The staffs would be shocked."
- I'd be scared to see someone die. - That'd be scary.
If I died here, everyone in this studio would be shocked.
- Imagine Dong Yeob dies right here. - Right.
I, too, am a workaholic.
However, there are times...
when I felt so sad one day.
I wondered what was the meaning of working so hard.
Have you ever thought about it?
Don't you want to get some rest sometimes?
I never thought that I wanted to get some rest.
I feel more energetic when I work.
While working, I hum...
- with excitement. - We can't communicate with him.
(He lowers his head.)
- What do you think of your father? - When he heard his father,
he lowered his head. It seems like...
he has given up.
Honestly, I...
have never thought...
highly of my father.
Of course.
I always see him work, get angry,
and yell at other people. That's all I see.
To me, he's only a father who turned...
his back on me and became estranged from me.
(You turned your back on me and became estranged from me.)
When he's drunk,
he becomes violent.
One more thing is revealed.
I don't remember the reason,
but he slapped me in the face repeatedly...
when he was drunk.
When he gets drunk,
he seems to lose his mind.
Sir, do you not remember it or do you remember it clearly?
- He must remember... - I can't remember it at all.
You can't remember it?
(Frustrated)
(What are you going to do?)
What would it be like if this situation persists?
What worries you the most?
It's exhausting for me, but I also worry about my husband's health...
because health is the most important thing.
Since we make tonkatsu from scratch, my husband pounds...
between 100 and 200 pieces of meat every day.
Therefore, his shoulder hurts.
But he doesn't make time to go see a doctor.
I feel so upset.
When she was hospitalized,
- I was going to say the same thing. - he didn't care about her health.
Why would you worry about him?
When I am with him, he seems a bit pitiful.
- I feel sorry for him. - Right.
- She still loves him. - This is love, sir.
This is how you should feel about your family.
You should care about your family even if your family...
- didn't look after you. - In brief,
everything you're planning to do...
will never be done if you think it realistically.
You're working hard, so you won't have to rely on your family, right?
But if you fall ill,
your wife will have to attend to you all day long.
And your children will visit you because you're their father...
and their mother goes through a hard time.
Your wife will spend the rest of her life...
- on looking after you. - Goodness.
You only live once. And no one lives forever.
I am not afraid of dying.
If I were terminally ill,
I wouldn't stay in a hospital. I would...
end my own life right then and there.
I think about it all the time.
Then sir, think about it.
You only live once, and you chose this lifestyle.
Then what about your wife's life? Did she choose this?
She should think it's her destiny. What can she do about it?
(She should think it's her destiny.)
(The audiences are lost for words.)
Are you saying that she was unlucky to marry you?
Sir,
you're considering taking a day off...
every week or every two weeks since you heard your family, right?
- "Right. I should..." - No. I have no intention at all.
- Is that right? - No. I have no intention at all.
(All of their efforts go down the drain.)
(My goodness.)
(I am angry.)
- Will you stick to your lifestyle? - Yes.
- You will never take a day off? - That's right.
Still, what has your wife done wrong to live like this?
Shouldn't you let your wife take some days off?
She shouldn't have met me. I'm sure she regrets meeting me.
I can't believe him.
(He keeps saying nonsense.)
- I can't believe him. - But she should accept it.
Why...
I've never thought I should change.
- Gosh. - Since it's hard for you to change,
- you want them to understand you? - That's right.
I would appreciate it if my family understand me.
- I don't... - Do you want them to understand...
your lifestyle and principles?
Yoon Jung must have been really frustrated.
She would've hit herself lightly if she wasn't,
but she hit herself so hard.
Why are you so frustrated?
Even if he doesn't want to take a day off...
I don't understand why he doesn't try to understand...
his wife and children while asking them to understand him.
When I worked at a company,
I did things my wife asked me to do.
I helped her with house chores like doing dishes and laundry.
But when I do one thing,
she asks for more things.
(She demands more things.)
(I give up.)
All right. Sir, we'll wrap it up here.
(What?)
- We'll wrap it up? - Yes.
- Right. Let's finish it like this. - Right.
This will be the first time in the history of Hello.
(The first unsolved case on Hello)
(What should we do about our problems?)
I didn't want to talk about this. However...
I always thought my mom was too foolish.
It's because...
Our neighbors, the family of a grocery store owner,
did well even though they went to church on weekends.
They were happy and always laughed.
But my mom wanted to live her life to the fullest...
working all day long and getting only three hours sleep.
My mom collapsed at the age of 53.
And as a result, half of her body was paralyzed.
(She ended up developing hemiplegia.)
But there was a silver lining.
I made my debut as an entertainer.
I spent my whole youth on making money...
to pay her medical bills until she could finally walk.
What's the point of it?
(I spent my whole youth to make my mom walk again.)
Fortunately, my mom can walk now.
Imagine what we had to go through until she recovered.
(Until when should your family sacrifice themselves?)
Now I want to live the life I wished for.
(Now I want to live the life I wished for.)
Before I become older,
I want to try the things I wanted,
instead of living for someone else.
Just as I always wished,
I want to try living here for a month and there for a month.
I really want to try it.
Are you talking about food tours?
(Are you talking about food tours?)
(Is she surprised?)
I have tried only Korean food.
I've never tried anything in foreign countries.
Foreign cuisines.
I really want to live my own life as I want.
Sir, even if you close your restaurant once in a while...
and work for 25 days out of 30 days,
your business won't go bankrupt.
You can improve your menu and be nice to your customers.
(You can improve your menu and be nice to your customers.)
(I'm upset too.)
Now, ma'am...
(Yeong Ja bravely told her sad story.)
My goodness.
(A round of applause to her sincerity)
Honey,
people work...
to lead their lives.
No one lives for work.
I'm not asking a lot. I just want us to take a day off every month,
eat with our children at a famous restaurant...
and go hiking.
If we can't even do that, life would be meaningless.
Is it that hard?
Oh, dear.
(His facial expression didn't change.)
Ma'am, can you think of any solution?
Once a month or you take...
only delivery orders on Sundays.
She succumbed to the situation...
and asked him to let her take a day off every month.
(He is still looking unhappy.)
Say a word to your wife.
(Say a word to your wife.)
I haven't realized what I did wrong until today.
I'll try to fix the problem from now on.
I'm sorry. I love you.
- Everyone, hold on a second. - Hang on.
Your wife came here to ask you to take a day off...
- every week. - Just one day a week.
- I don't think he'll accept it. - Promise her.
(Taking a deep breath)
(I hope he changed his mind.)
(What will he say?)
- We'll take a day off every week. - Once a week.
- Are you serious? - One day every week?
- Yes. - Once a week?
- Once a week. - Oh, my.
(It's officially decided that they'll take 1 day off every week.)
Which day of the week?
- Every Sunday. - He says Sunday.
- Every Sunday? - Yes.
If you go to Gimhae,
and his restaurant is open,
you should cause a commotion.
(I'm a man of my word.)
- Say a word to your son as well. - Right.
Put your arm around his shoulder.
Around his shoulder.
(Awkward)
- Oh, boy. - Don't move away from me.
(I can't watch this.)
I'm sorry for what I did wrong to you.
I'll try to get along well with you like your friend.
- Sir. - This is a great program.
All right. Let's begin with Ro Woon.
Do you think it's a worry or not?
When I first saw him, I felt sorry for him.
I could understand...
- that he had his own reasons. - Of course.
But still, he shouldn't force his lifestyle on his wife and children.
I also think it's a worry.
I think he's such a great man.
(She gets emotional.)
- He's been living to the fullest. - That's right.
I applaud him for that.
However, he lived his life...
to the fullest until now and worked hard enough.
So I hope he'll become happy now.
I think it's a worry.
It's a worry.
(Yoon Jung thinks it's a worry.)
Please press the buzzer if you think it's a worry.
(What does the audience think?)
(You can post your story on our website.)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
Please show us the result of "My Wish".
(The result)
Did she get more votes?
If she gets 157 votes, she wins.
If she gets 167 votes, she wins.
("My Wish")
167 votes.
(167 votes)
The title is "My Great Sister".
Hello. I'm an 18-year-old boy,
and I get stressed out every day.
"Stop eating already!"
(All of a sudden?)
"You're not allowed to eat after 8pm from now on."
"That's not fair!"
"You will work out every morning starting from tomorrow."
"So you'll wake up at 6am. Do you hear me?"
"That's ridiculous. No!"
My only little sister who is in sixth grade...
weighs 68kg.
Ever since she was diagnosed as obese,
my mom and sister have been at intense war on weight.
"I told you to take the herbal medicine for losing weight."
"Did you take your medicine?"
"Did you eat wild mango?"
"Did you eat oat?"
"If you don't lose weight, you won't even be able to walk."
"Gosh. She's making my blood boil."
"Fine. I heard you."
"Hey, how could you speak so rudely to Mom?"
"Mom, stop buying weight loss pills for her."
I always end up getting involved in their fight.
If only my sister succeeds in losing weight,
I think the war will end.
"I'm hungry. I'm so hungry."
"Beef tripe, chicken feet, hangover soup, beef omasum,"
"and seasoned raw beef. I'm craving all of those."
- But she's an elementary school. - "Let me eat just one of them."
"You pig, stop eating."
It seems that my sister has a long way to go to lose weight.
How can we stop this war?
Can't you help us find a solution?
(Please stop the war on weight!)
By the way, all the foods that his little sister,
who is in sixth grade, wants to eat...
- Beef omasum. - are what we eat with booze.
- My goodness. - Chicken feet, beef tripe,
hangover soup, and seasoned raw beef.
I have the same experience.
That's right.
- I didn't know that. - When I started fifth grade,
- I weighed over 50kg. - Gosh.
But I was shorter than 140cm.
I was just like her.
When I was a child, my relatives...
said I was so chubby I roll around.
- Really? - Yes. I was chubby.
How much did you weigh?
- I grew much taller in a year, - He's so tall.
but I weighed 60kg.
- I think I weighed up to 60kg. - How old were you?
- You weighed only 60kg? - Mothers let their children eat.
You weighed only 60kg.
You two were slightly overweight. That's cute.
You little...
(You don't call that chubby.)
(Embarrassed)
Before we meet the person who sent us this story,
we're going to meet our special guest...
who will give us advice on this matter.
Our special guest, please come out.
(Ta-da!)
(Oh, my!)
Fitness Coach, Yang Chi Seung!
(Yang Chi Seung help stars like Sung Hoon and Kim Woo Bin stay fit.)
It's Yang Chi Seung.
(Oh, the strict coach!)
(He slides down powerfully.)
(Welcome.)
You heard the story at the back. What do you think?
The more important thing is that she's a child.
For a child to lose weight, she needs...
a lot of help from the people around her.
What I want to know is...
(What?)
(Are you asking us a question?)
If her parents also...
- Please wait. It's not time yet. - Oh, is that right?
(He is so impatient.)
- Should I not say it yet? - The guest hasn't come out.
- I guess you didn't watch our show. - I see.
Now, let's meet our guest.
Please come out.
(Who is the boy struggling with his little sister's weight loss war?)
(Lee Joo Seung)
I can see why she is compared to him. He's so handsome.
- He's handsome. - He dressed nicely too.
I guess you're going to a funeral after this.
Gosh. He's only 18.
(Laughing)
How serious is the fight between your mom and sister?
There hasn't been a single day that our house is quiet.
- Really? - For the past three years,
her weight loss war continued.
- When my sister was younger, - For three years?
she looked so pretty and cute.
When she was in third grade, her cheeks...
became chubby.
Then she gained more weight and became fat.
Did she become fat gradually?
Right now, she's really fat.
(That's a good way to describe it.)
I have a question. Does your sister also want to lose weight?
- She may not want it. - Right.
- She needs motivation. - Maybe she's happy being fat.
She wants to lose weight, but it seems hard.
She asked a sharp question as I expected.
Good. Between Mom and your little sister,
who do you sympathize with more?
I think they are the same.
Mom is rather extreme,
and my sister lacks the will to lose weight.
- She lacks the will. - She has the will, but it's weak.
She wants to lose weight, but she has a weak will.
She gives in easily when there's food.
To make my sister lose weight,
my mom has been buying a lot of diet products...
for the past three years.
She bought herbal medicine, diet pills,
oat, wild mango,
- puer tea, - Oh, puer tea.
- and hibiscus tea. - She tried everything adults try.
- Yes. Hibiscus. - I think those...
have been mentioned on morning TV shows.
- It must cost a lot too. - She watches those.
- She watches those. - She spent more than 3,000 dollars.
(She has spent more than 3,000 dollars.)
- So far. - For everything?
- For everything. - Does she not make her work out?
She made her try a lot of different workouts too.
She tried taekwondo, hapkido, bodyguard martial arts,
and weight training. She goes swimming now.
I think she's trying to turn her into a warrior.
(That's over the line.)
- You called your sister "pig". - I know.
Don't you think it's too mean?
She should be losing weight. But she eats so much.
I got upset watching her binge-eating.
Doesn't she get hurt?
She gets hurt. I heard she once cried alone.
So I am trying to do it less.
But when she was five, she had a whole burger meal.
She had a whole burger meal when she was five.
When she was six, she ate chicken feet, entrails...
She ate chicken feet and entrails when she was six?
She also ate beef sashimi and raw octopus.
She ate the one that's still alive.
She's going to enter middle school in a year.
I am afraid kids will tease her about being chubby.
- You are worried as her brother. - Also,
an obese child has a higher chance of becoming...
- an obese adult. - When she goes to middle school...
(Does she understand how I feel?)
Let's meet his sister first. I think she's cute.
- I know. - Hello.
Hello.
- Nice to meet you. - Hello.
(She's cute.)
Can you understand your brother's concern?
I can.
I think Mom and I fight too much about my weight problem.
What's the toughest for you?
There are a lot of things I want to eat.
I make up my mind not to eat them.
But then I get hungry and end up eating them.
- Adults are the same. - Of course, that happens.
That's understandable. We understand that too.
What food is the hardest to resist?
Entrails.
(It makes our mouths water.)
- How does she know? - It's good.
- How does she... - Entrails.
Who did you first have the entrails with?
I went with my dad.
Tell us how it felt when you first had the entrails.
It was spicy and chewy.
It's also good when you wrap it in lettuce.
Did you have the fried rice too?
Yes.
(Of course.)
That's delicious.
I think she will continue the legacy of Yeong Ja.
She's a gifted child.
- Right. - She's a prodigy.
(This is not what I wanted.)
In my case, the moment I got motivated to lose weight...
was when my mom gave away...
my pretty but small clothes to my friend.
- And to your cousin. - Honestly,
it made me really sad and hurt my ego. So I wanted to lose weight.
Have you had any similar experience?
We will know only when you talk about it.
My brother said to me, "Stop shoving food into your mouth, Pig."
(Why was he so insensitive?)
(He should've encouraged her.)
- Gosh. - You are bad.
What's wrong with you?
Why did you say such a mean thing to her?
I wanted to shock her.
I wondered if she would get shocked and lose weight.
You are not anymore, but have you been chubby?
- I was once chubby too. - Really?
I was chubby too when I was in elementary school.
I joined the track team and managed to lose weight.
I have bad grades.
- Who? You? - Yes.
My sister told me, "You have bad grades."
"You are stupid."
Why didn't you try to get good grades?
I have to get good grades.
There's an academy I go to.
He was such a bad student...
that he got kicked out from there.
(Was he forced to drop out?)
So although me being chubby is a serious problem,
I think his grades are even more serious.
(She makes sense.)
(She wins.)
I want her to succeed to lose weight...
and experience the sweetness of having a slim body.
- You want her to realize that. - Yes.
What do you do...
to lose weight then?
I get up at 6am...
and swim for an hour and a half.
I don't want to eat oats,
but Mom tells me to eat them, so I eat them.
- She's trying. - Do you...
go swimming every day? How many times a week do you go swimming?
Five times a week.
- That's nearly every day. - One and a half hours each.
Don't you get hungry after swimming?
I eat oats.
Honestly, you've eaten things other than oats, right?
I've eaten egg whites.
I microwaved them.
She should be losing weight then.
Did you already lose some weight?
I don't know.
Her mother might be the one who's feeling sadder.
My mom was really sad when I was chubby.
That's why I want to hear how her mother feels.
How slim was your mother?
My mom was really slim.
That's why I asked.
The lady who seems to be her mother is very slim.
Hello.
(Hello.)
Can you get up?
Can you get up from your seat?
- Look at her legs. - My goodness.
How annoyed...
would her daughter be?
- Right. - Right.
Your son came out here saying that it's a worry.
Do you understand his worry?
I can understand where he's coming from.
But when I see my daughter being so greedy about food...
and eating a lot, I get upset.
When she gets on a bus,
the bus driver doesn't see her as an elementary school student.
She said, "Mom, the driver didn't give me the change."
I thought I couldn't just leave her like this.
You spent more than 3,000 dollars...
on buying diet products.
It's particularly serious around her midriff.
I bought diet food that will help her grow taller...
and gently curb her appetite.
They are all things that are safe for children.
Do you think they worked?
She lacks persistence.
She lacks persistence. I ask her...
if she wants to eat something since it's good for weight loss.
She says she would eat it. But when I buy it,
she ends up making excuses and not having it.
When she asks me if I want to eat something,
if I say I don't want to eat it,
she nags, and she buys it anyway.
That's why I just say I'd eat it.
My brother keeps forcing me to eat it...
and annoys me.
He would annoy you.
- You should be helping her. - He revealed her weight.
You could work out together.
- We work out together. - Then...
I forced her to eat it because...
Since oats are natural food,
I thought they would be better than pills.
By the way, why do you think she's not seeing...
- any result? - What's the problem?
It seems like she's controlling her diet and exercising hard.
It's because she eats all the other food as well.
(I see.)
She cooks ramyeon and eats it. She eats grilled ham with it.
She doesn't eat oats as they are because they don't taste good.
She eats it with honey.
- He eats oats with honey. - That would be delicious.
Did she ever get caught while secretly eating something?
When I came home, there were 1 or 2 chicken bones on the table.
When I asked her if she ate fried chicken,
she said it was from the day before. So I didn't think further.
But in the morning, she got a box of fried chicken from the porch.
She said she hid it so I won't have it.
That once happened.
She finishes one whole box of fried chicken in one sitting.
- She finishes one chicken. - Yes.
She must crave for so many things.
You've secretly had other things, haven't you?
- Tell us everything. - Tell us.
- Honestly. - It's okay.
I had convenient store fried chicken.
- Convenient store fried chicken. - She bought everything.
Convenient store fried chicken is good. How many did you have?
I ate two.
Two big pieces?
When someone tells you not to eat, you crave for food more.
When T-ara just debuted...
and came to practice "Bo Peep Bo Peep",
their agency told me to stop them from eating.
Whenever I went to the bathroom,
there were chocolate wrappers.
We stopped them from eating,
so they got stressed and ate behind our back.
They ate to live.
Exercising and eating less at the same time from the start...
it's too tough for a child.
So you have to make her get into the habit of exercising first.
Controlling the diet should come in later.
That would make it much more likely to succeed.
- But usually... - Exercise first.
It sounds like...
you like fried chicken.
And your father introduced her...
to the world of entrails.
It seems like your family likes meat.
Have you tried changing the family diet altogether?
She should focus on the family diet.
We've tried it before for her sake.
- Why don't you do it now? - I work.
I am a hairdresser, so I go home late.
If I am a full-time housewife, I would fix all three meals...
- Right. - for her, but I can't do that.
I think partly it's my fault.
I think my husband...
is disturbing her.
When we dine out,
she would say she wants to eat this and that.
And he orders everything for her.
When he buys bread,
he buys 13 pieces.
He buys a lot of ramyeon too. He's a very generous dad.
- Let's talk to him. - They look so much alike.
She looks a lot like her dad.
She got his constitution too.
She's saying that your daughter...
can't lose weight because of you. What do you think?
I think she's right.
- You're admitting to it? - He's a good man.
I am here today to talk about this issue,
but I am really emotional right now.
- Why? - Why? Is she too lovely?
(She's surprised.)
He feels bad that they're here because of her weight loss problem.
- I see. - Tell us why you're emotional.
Do you feel bad that she's going through so much...
- to lose weight? - That's one reason.
I really like my daughter.
So thinking about her...
getting married one day makes me tearful.
(He gets tearful whenever he thinks about her getting married.)
You are tearful because of that?
- Yes. - No way.
- He's incredible. - Does thinking about her...
Thinking about her leaving you makes you sad?
(The loving father becomes emotional.)
He's so cute.
Do you not want her to get married early?
Yes.
She says she won't get married.
- No way. - She's still too young.
- She would say that of course. - Then are you intentionally...
"You are not getting married anyway. Just eat as much as you want."
That's not what you are doing, right?
That's not it.
I want her to lose weight too.
I promised her this.
I told her I'd get her a new phone if she loses 5kg.
But even that didn't work.
You shouldn't buy her food then.
You keep giving her food. You get her 13 pieces of bread.
She acts really cute to me.
What do you do?
I kiss him.
Whenever I ask for something, he gives it to me.
- I get why he likes her. - Right.
- Right. - He has to love her.
Her mom spends all the money on buying diet pills,
and her dad keeps buying her food. It's a vicious cycle.
Is there another reason why you have...
such a soft spot for your daughter?
My father passed away...
when I was still young.
I didn't get to live comfortably.
I didn't get to eat well growing up. So I want to buy...
my children all the food they want to eat.
That's what I felt.
That's why I can't turn it down when she asks.
(She can't turn her down.)
Have you tried to help her lose weight?
I tried not giving her an allowance.
I didn't give her money, but she didn't ask for it.
Where did she get money?
My wife later got a call.
It turned out she had been asking her friends...
to buy her food.
She had been begging her friends for food.
That really surprised me.
- Right. - I worried that...
she might be led astray if I don't get her the food...
she wants to eat. I became soft again and gave her money.
That pattern keeps repeating.
I want to ask her this honestly.
Are there times when you feel like you want to do it in your own way?
If I am not forced to take the diet pills...
and to go swimming,
I think I will control what I eat.
- Do you think you can control it? - Yes.
Will you not eat fried chicken secretly?
I won't.
(I don't believe her.)
That's nearly impossible.
It is.
Do you like the exercise you are doing right now?
Do you not like swimming so much?
In the past, I worked out at a gym.
I used to lift weights with my legs, and I used to do a few hundred reps.
When you do that, your legs hurt, so you have to rest.
But my brother kept pushing me to do more.
You have to know what's really good for her.
You think lifting weights would help her. But that's not it.
She said she did the leg exercise.
When you lift weights, your growth plate gets damaged.
- Right. - Tell them what they don't know.
It might make her...
overweight in the lower body.
(It might lead her to become overweight in the lower body.)
Today, I brought a trampoline.
- A trampoline. - Trampoline...
stimulates the growth plate a lot.
It would help her to grow taller.
Also, jumping on a trampoline...
burns several times more calories than sprinting.
Let's see his method then.
- Okay. - The expert will teach you.
I want to do that too.
It looks fun.
If you completely straighten your legs, you get injured.
So you have to always slightly bend your knees.
And jump like this.
- It looks easy. - It's easy.
- 1, 2. 1, 2. Spread your legs. - It's easy.
- It's easy. - And turn.
- It must be fun. - Yes, it's fun.
You can jump and do front kicks.
You can do a lot of moves.
- Why don't you move to music? - Okay.
(Mommy shark, doo doo doo doo doo doo)
(Why is the song and the move so unexpectedly cute?)
He's good.
(He acts as cute as he can.)
Yang Chi Seung!
(Mommy)
(She stops herself from laughing at him.)
(He speeds up.)
Look at his hips.
Right. The song gets faster.
(It would be quite tough.)
- My goodness. - Good.
- That was tough. - So Eun.
What did you think of it?
Does it make you want to give it a go?
Yes. It's exciting.
Is it exciting?
By the way, it's a great exercise.
- It's a great exercise. - It's really great.
Even I am gasping.
Give it a try.
You don't have to do exactly what he did.
We will play music for you.
(She exercises while playing.)
She's good. She's great.
(She shyly moves her feet.)
(My little sister is good.)
(She's good.)
- Great. - Move your feet forward and back.
(This is exciting.)
Well done.
Why don't you give it to her as a gift?
- It's nice. - I brought one for her.
He brought one for you.
(I will work out hard.)
I brought one for her.
(They clap like seals.)
Next, teach her something she can do at home with her mom,
dad, and brother.
We will play rock-paper-scissors.
- The loser will sit. - Okay.
If we give the same thing, we will both sit.
- Rock, paper, scissors. - That sounds fun.
Sit.
Rock, paper, scissors.
- Sit. - What's going on?
- Rock, paper, scissors. - It makes you do squats.
(It's a tie again.)
- My gosh. - What are you doing?
It naturally makes you squat.
- Not even once. - It makes you squat.
I keep squatting.
- Sit. - It must be upsetting.
It must be tough.
- It must be fun. - It must be fun.
- Like this. - It must be fun.
- Like this. - Play it with your brother.
- This makes you use muscles. - Play it with your brother.
Rock, paper, scissors.
(The siblings compete.)
- Rock, paper, scissors. - Rock, paper, scissors.
- Go down together. - 20 minutes...
- would be plenty. - Right.
Rock, paper, scissors.
Great. Great.
- Rock, paper, scissors. - Rock, paper, scissors.
- Rock, paper, scissors. - That's good.
- Rock, paper, scissors. - Rock, paper, scissors.
You lose a lot.
(She's as good as Hyomin.)
- It's... - It's a great exercise.
Rock, paper, scissors.
I think their mom and dad should do this too.
I think you need to do some squats, sir.
- Play rock-paper-scissors. - Play rock-paper-scissors.
(Hurry up and do it.)
Rock, paper, scissors. The entire family can do it.
How lovely is it? It's great for improving your relationship.
(Like father, like daughter)
How lovely is it?
(Dad, try to win.)
He's just like his daughter.
He's tired.
(He can't function.)
He got worn off.
(Their relationship will improve.)
I think that's a great exercise.
I think he can help his sister.
- Right. - Exercise the lower body together.
(Stop fighting and exercise together.)
You heard everything.
Can you trust your daughter now?
Yes. I want to trust her.
We will stop fighting.
I want her to get away from being extremely obese.
I want her to keep a healthy weight.
Don't force her to take...
- diet pills. - We don't know...
how the diet pills would affect her growth.
Instead of making her take pills, you should control the diet.
Her father's role is very important.
- Right. - From now on, I will...
try hard to help my daughter.
By the way, I was so surprised to see him crying...
at the thought of his daughter getting married.
- I know. - She's in elementary school.
I can make him cry in a moment.
- Think about her getting married. - Don't mention it. I'll cry again.
(Don't mention it. I'll cry again.)
She's getting married.
Don't mention it.
(Crying)
- See? - This is incredible.
- Oh, dear. - My goodness.
- Sir. - Raise your hand if you're jealous.
Who wants to be loved like her?
See?
- I envy her. - If you keep giving her money...
- He's crying again. - and buy her 13 pieces of bread,
she will get married.
Look at that.
She's getting married tomorrow.
She can't do that.
He's cute.
(Let's stay together for a long time.)
Please say something to your sister.
You are already pretty, but if you lose a little bit of weight,
you will be prettier. Let's stop fighting and be happy.
This family is so amicable.
If you don't keep pushing me to lose weight,
I will lose weight.
- She'd do it in her own way. - So Eun, your mom...
blames herself for it because she works...
and doesn't get to take care of you.
I think she feels guilty.
- Tell her something. - Yes.
It's not your fault. So don't feel guilty.
- Tell your dad something too. - Tell her you love her.
- Tell your dad something too. - He might cry.
Let's exercise together.
(Smiling)
- He's cute. - She's lovely too.
Tell her you'd get married before you turn 20 otherwise.
Why would you say that?
(I can't give away my daughter.)
I am so happy to see such a happy family.
- I am proud and happy. - Right.
It's a heartwarming.
- Chi Seung. - Let's start with Yoon Jung.
I think it's not a worry.
- It's not a worry. - Yes.
I think this is not a worry.
I think she can lose weight...
whenever she sets her mind to it.
I think it's not a worry.
I also think it's not a worry.
As someone who is more experienced in life, I want to say this to her.
You go on a diet to eat delicious food for a long time...
without feeling guilty.
Just think of it as controlling your pace.
- Right. - That's lovely.
(We will cheer for you too.)
Child obesity is a big issue these days.
Out of 10 children, 1.5 to 2 children are obese,
and the number is gradually increasing.
The entire family needs to pay attention and support her...
to develop the will.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
Let's check the result.
(The result)
Is it over 100?
(What's the result?)
- 32. - 32.
(32 votes)
This week's winner is...
"My Wish".
Congratulations. The winner will receive a cash prize.
Until the day we are all worry-free.
Hello will continue to counsel you.
- Thank you. - Thank you.
("Alligator" by MONSTA X)